When the same relationship patterns keep repeating and emotional difficulties feel overwhelming, many people wonder if there's a way to create meaningful change without years of therapy. Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy (DIT) offers an evidence-based solution that works with both symptoms and the underlying interpersonal patterns that often fuel them.

Do you ever feel like you're the only adult in your relationship? Like you're constantly managing, organising, and remembering everything while your partner seems to coast along? If this resonates with you, you're experiencing what many therapists recognise as the parent-child dynamic in romantic relationships.

You're not alone in feeling this way, and more importantly, it's not your fault. But understanding how this dynamic develops, and how to change it, can transform your relationship from one of caretaking to true partnership.

Starting therapy is a significant step towards better mental health and wellbeing. But with many different therapeutic approaches and thousands of practitioners across London to choose from, how do you find someone who's not just qualified, but truly right for you and your unique circumstances?

This comprehensive guide will help you navigate both the practical considerations of choosing a qualified therapist and the equally important question of finding the right therapeutic approach for your needs.

Narcissistic abuse is one of the most insidious and often misunderstood, forms of psychological harm. Unlike overt physical abuse, it operates through subtle, persistent manipulation that can distort a person’s sense of reality and gradually dismantle their self-esteem. Survivors frequently describe feeling confused, disoriented, and alone, often doubting their own perceptions and questioning their worth. At Heathwell, our specialist therapists understand the unique dynamics of narcissistic abuse and offer skilled, compassionate support to help individuals make sense of their experiences and begin the process of healing.

"She used to be so outgoing and happy. Now she won't even answer the phone when her friends call."

"All she does is stay in her room on her phone. I can't get her to come downstairs for dinner anymore."

"I don't understand what's happened to my child. It's like someone switched them overnight."

If these thoughts sound familiar, you're not alone. Many parents find themselves bewildered when their previously confident, capable child suddenly becomes anxious, withdrawn, or struggles with tasks they used to handle with ease. This dramatic shift can be deeply concerning, leaving parents wondering what they've done wrong or whether their teenager is simply being "difficult."

After years of school runs, teenage dramas, and family dinners, the day arrives when your last child leaves home. The house is suddenly quieter, routines shift, and you find yourself face-to-face with your partner without the buffer of parenting responsibilities. This transition, commonly known as the "empty nest," can be both challenging and surprisingly rewarding for couples.

Psychosexual therapy is a specialised therapeutic approach that focuses specifically on sexual functioning, sexual relationships, and how we feel about our sexual selves. It's sometimes called sex therapy, and it addresses both the physical and psychological aspects of sexual health.

Unlike general counselling, psychosexual therapy directly explores the intimate aspects of your life and provides tailored strategies for sexual concerns. The therapist creates a safe space where you can discuss matters that might feel embarrassing or difficult to talk about elsewhere.

Rebuilding intimacy after trauma isn't about going back to how things were before—it's about creating something new that honors both your experiences and your desires for connection. The path isn't usually straightforward and often involves cycles of connection, retreat, and trying again.

With patience, support, and compassion—from others and yourself—it's possible to develop a connection that might actually be more authentic and meaningful than before.

Have you ever wondered why you respond to relationship stress in a particular way? Why some people seem to withdraw during conflicts while others become increasingly demanding? Or perhaps why certain relationship patterns feel so frustratingly familiar?

The answer may lie in your attachment style—patterns of relating that begin forming in our earliest days and continue to influence our adult relationships in profound ways.

ADHD can significantly shape romantic relationships, influencing communication, daily routines, and emotional dynamics. When one or both partners have ADHD, misunderstandings are common. Behaviours like forgetfulness, avoidance, or procrastination are often misread as a lack of care, when they’re actually linked to ADHD-related executive dysfunction. Learning to depersonalise these behaviours and foster mutual understanding is key to creating healthy, supportive relationships.

In every relationship, there are moments of harmony and moments of struggle. Love alone is rarely enough to sustain a deep and lasting connection. Relationships are shaped by past experiences, unconscious patterns, and the inevitable challenges of two individuals navigating life together. Couples therapy is not just a tool for resolving conflict—it is a space where partners can examine their relationship with curiosity, compassion, and a willingness to grow.

Teenagers with ADHD often face misunderstandings and stigma that can significantly impact their self-esteem, education, and relationships. Misconceptions about ADHD can lead to unfair judgments, missed opportunities, and a lack of proper support. By addressing these myths, we can create a more informed and supportive environment for teens with ADHD. Here are some of the most common myths about ADHD in teenagers—debunked.

In this post, we’ll debunk common myths and highlight what ADHD in adults really looks like and explore how therapy can help with managing symptoms, building coping strategies, and improving daily life.

Parent Mental Health Day is a reminder to pause and reflect on the challenges parents face while navigating the complexities of modern life. This year’s theme, “Getting Screen Smart,” highlights the impact of digital consumption on both parents and children and encourages mindful screen use to support mental well-being.

The January Slump

January can be a tough month for many. After the festivities of Christmas and the hopefulness of New Year’s resolutions, the return to routine often feels bleak. The shorter days, gloomy weather, and financial strain of the holiday season all contribute to a collective sense of low energy and motivation.

Why is it Called Blue Monday?

Blue Monday falls on the third Monday of January and is often referred to as the “most depressing day of the year.” The term was coined in 2005 as part of a marketing campaign, using a formula that combined factors like weather, post-holiday debt, and failed resolutions.