Muby's Approach and Specialisms

Muby's work is particularly focused on the lasting impact of childhood relationships, emotional neglect and early separation. She specialises in working with adults who grew up with narcissistic or emotionally immature parents, as well as former boarding school pupils who may have learned to suppress their emotional needs to adapt to life away from home.

These experiences can leave people struggling with guilt, self-doubt, boundaries or difficulties with closeness and trust, sometimes without fully recognising the connection to their childhood. Drawing on over 20 years of clinical experience and specialist training in boarding school survivors therapy, Muby helps clients examine these histories and understand how they continue to influence their identity, relationships and emotional wellbeing.

Her integrative approach also informs her work with couples and families, where she explores the patterns and emotional dynamics that develop between people.

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents and Narcissistic Abuse

Growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature parent can leave someone questioning their own feelings, struggling to set boundaries or feeling responsible for other people's emotional wellbeing.

Muby specialises in working with adults who have experienced narcissistic family dynamics. She understands the lasting effects of emotional manipulation, criticism, conditional love and neglect, particularly when these experiences have shaped someone's understanding of what is acceptable in relationships.

For some, the difficulties become clearer in adulthood. They may recognise patterns of people-pleasing, intense self-criticism or guilt when prioritising their own needs. Others may struggle with family relationships in which their experiences are dismissed or their boundaries repeatedly challenged.

Muby's work offers space to examine these patterns, understand their origins and explore how they continue to affect adult relationships. Her specialist experience also informs her therapeutic groups for adult children of narcissistic parents, where participants can explore shared experiences of shame, self-doubt and family expectations.

Boarding School Syndrome and Ex-Boarder Psychotherapy

Muby has undertaken specialist training with Nick Duffell, whose work explores the psychological impact of boarding school experiences, sometimes described as Boarding School Syndrome or privileged abandonment.

For children sent away to boarding school, separation from parents and family life can require significant emotional adaptation. Some learn to suppress homesickness, vulnerability or distress to manage the demands of institutional living.

These adaptations may continue into adulthood, even when someone remembers their school years positively or considers their education a privilege.

Muby works with former boarders to explore how early separation, institutional expectations and disrupted attachments may have influenced their emotional lives and relationships. Difficulties with intimacy, expressing vulnerability or recognising personal needs can sometimes be understood within this history.

Her approach allows clients to consider both the opportunities and losses associated with their boarding school experiences, including feelings that may never have been acknowledged at the time.

Couples and Relationship Therapy

Muby offers couples therapy for partners experiencing communication difficulties, recurring conflict, emotional distance, trust issues and infidelity.

Her approach centres on the relationship itself. Rather than focusing on which partner is responsible for a problem, she explores the patterns that develop between them and how each person's responses influence the other.

For couples caught in repeated arguments, this means looking at what happens between them when conversations become difficult. For others, the concern may be a gradual loss of closeness, unresolved hurt or an inability to discuss sensitive subjects without further conflict.

Muby helps partners develop a clearer understanding of these dynamics and the emotional experiences behind them. Her work supports more constructive communication, greater emotional understanding and the possibility of rebuilding trust and connection.

Family Relationships

Muby also offers family therapy, drawing on her extensive experience of working with children, adolescents and adults, and her specialist understanding of complex family relationships.

Her clinical interests include the lasting effects of childhood experiences, emotional neglect and difficult family dynamics. These are particularly relevant to her work with adult children of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents.

Her integrative approach provides space to explore family experiences and their influence on emotional wellbeing, identity and relationships.